My friends call me a loser
‘Cause I’m still hanging around
I’ve heard so many rumors
That I’m just a girl that you bang on your couch
I thought you thought of me better
Someone you couldn’t lose
You said, “We’re not together”
So now when we kiss, I have anger issues
You said, “Baby, no attachment”
But we’re…
Knee deep in the passenger seat and you’re eating me out
Is it casual now?
Two weeks and your mom invites me to her house on Long Beach
Is it casual now?
I know what you tell your friends
It’s casual, if it’s casual now
But baby, get me off again
If it’s casual, it’s casual now
Dumb love, I love being stupid
Dream of us in a year
Maybe we’d have an apartment
And you’d show me off to your friends at the pier
I know, “Baby, no attachment”
But we’re…
Knee deep in the passenger seat and you’re eating me out
Is it casual now?
Two weeks and your mom invites me to her house on Long Beach
Is it casual now?
I know what you tell your friends
It’s casual, if it’s casual now
But baby, get me off again
If it’s casual, oh, oh, oh
It’s hard being casual
When my favorite bra lives in your dresser
It’s hard being casual
When I’m on the phone talking down your sister
And I try to be the chill girl that
Holds her tongue and gives you space
I try to be the chill girl but
Honestly, I’m not
Knee deep in the passenger seat and you’re eating me out
Two weeks and your mom invites me to her Long Beach house
I know what you tell your friends
Baby, get me off again
I fucked you in the bathroom when we went to dinner
Your parents at the table, you wonder why I’m bitter
Bragging to your friends I get off when you hit it
I hate to tell the truth but I’m sorry dude you didn’t
I hate that I let this drag on so long, now I hate myself
I hate that I let this drag on so long, you can go to hell
Exploring the Complexity of Modern Relationships
Chappell Roan’s “Casual” digs deep into the emotional contradictions that often accompany friends-with-benefits or undefined relationships. The lyrics paint a vivid picture of the struggle to balance nonchalance with vulnerability, as the protagonist grapples with mixed signals and growing attachment. Roan’s storytelling is raw and relatable—she describes moments of intimacy juxtaposed with feelings of insecurity and longing for something more. The song navigates the tension between casual encounters and the desire for genuine connection, making it resonate with anyone who’s ever tried to remain “chill” while secretly wanting more.
Breaking Down the Emotional Honesty
Throughout “Casual,” Roan uses candid and sometimes explicit imagery to underscore the blurred lines of her relationship. References to meeting family, sharing personal spaces, and the emotional fallout of unreciprocated feelings highlight the impossibility of keeping things truly casual when emotions are involved. The closing verses are particularly striking, as Roan voices her frustration and self-awareness, ultimately reclaiming her narrative and setting boundaries.
Song Credits
Artist: Chappell Roan
Release Year: 2023
Songwriters: Chappell Roan, Daniel Nigro
Label: Island Records