Why Did It Have To Be Me – ABBA

Lyrics: Why Did It Have To Be Me

When you were lonely, you needed a man
Someone to lean on, well I understand
It's only natural
But why did it have to be me?

Nights can be empty, nights can be cold
So you were looking for someone to hold
That's only natural
But why did it have to be me?

I was so lonesome, I was blue
I couldn't help it, it had to be you and I
Always thought you knew the reason why
I only wanted a little love affair
Now I can see you are beginning to care
But baby, believe me
It's better to forget me

Men are the toys in the game that you play
When you get tired, you throw them away
That's only natural
But why did it have to be me?

Falling in love with a woman like you
Happens so quickly, there's nothing to do
It's only natural
But why did it have to be me?

I was so lonesome, I was blue
I couldn't help it, it had to be you and I
Always thought you knew the reason why
I only wanted a little love affair
Now I can see you are beginning to care
But baby, believe me
It's better to forget me

Understanding the Lyrics

A Story of Unexpected Connection

“Why Did It Have To Be Me” tells a bittersweet story of love found in loneliness. The narrator addresses a woman who sought comfort in a time of need, emphasizing the natural human desire for companionship. The repeated question, “But why did it have to be me?” reflects a sense of surprise and perhaps regret—suggesting that, while the connection was understandable, it was not entirely welcomed or expected by the narrator.

Bittersweet Realizations

As the song unfolds, the narrator reveals his own vulnerability: “I was so lonesome, I was blue.” What began as a simple search for solace has turned into something deeper, and now he sees that feelings are growing stronger on both sides. However, the narrator urges caution, advocating for distance before emotional entanglement grows further with, “It’s better to forget me.”

Love, Games, and Letting Go

The lyrics also explore the idea of love as a game, where emotional connections can be fleeting or transactional. When the narrator says, “Men are the toys in the game that you play,” he highlights the fleeting nature of some relationships and the pain that can come with them. Ultimately, the song is a candid reflection on the unpredictability of love, the longing for connection, and the wisdom of knowing when to walk away.

Song Credits

  • Artist: ABBA
  • Songwriters: Benny Andersson, Björn Ulvaeus, Stig Anderson
  • Release Year: 1976
  • Label: Polar Music